That's Not What I Meant!: How Conversational Style Makes or by Deborah Tannen

By Deborah Tannen

At domestic, at the task, in a private courting, it's usually now not what you are saying yet the way you say it that counts.

Deborah Tannen revolutionized our puzzling over relationships among men and women in her no 1 bestseller You simply Don't Understand. In That's no longer What I Meant!, the across the world well known sociolinguist and specialist on communique demonstrates how our conversational signals—voice point, pitch and intonation, rhythm and timing, even the easy turns of word we choose—are strong components within the luck or failure of any courting. nearby speech features, ethnic and sophistication backgrounds, age, and person character all give a contribution to varied conversational types which could result in frustration and lost blame if ignored—but supply instruments to enhance relationships in the event that they are understood.

At as soon as eye-opening, astute, and drastically exciting, Tannen's vintage paintings on interpersonal conversation may help you to listen to what isn't stated and to acknowledge how your own conversational variety meshes or clashes with others. it is going to offer you a brand new knowing of verbal exchange that would assist you make the alterations that may shop a conversation... or a dating.

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Even more, we pray that you will be willing to look honestly at the present and apply what you discover. These pages may end your lifelong search for acceptance or begin a new relationship with your children, your spouse, your parents, or a close friend. Our deepest desire is that this book will enrich your relationship with your heavenly Father as you learn more about the source of blessing that he is to each believer. All this as we take our first look at the life-changing concept called the blessing.

The blessing meant for the older son went to the younger. Jacob should not have had to trick his way into receiving the blessing. God himself had told Isaac, regarding his twin sons, that the “older shall serve the younger” (Gen. 25:23). Yet Esau had grown up expecting the blessing to be his. No wonder he was devastated when he came back from hunting to find that an even more cunning hunter had stolen into his father’s tent and taken what he thought would be his. Was Esau crying over losing his inheritance?

2. The Lifelong Search for the Blessing 3. ” 4. A Life-and-Death Choice PART 2: UNDERSTANDING THE BLESSING 5. A Clear Path for Every Parent 6. The First Element: Meaningful Touch 7. The Second Element: A Spoken Message 8. The Third Element: Attaching High Value 9. The Fourth Element: Picturing a Special Future 10. The Fifth Element: An Active Commitment PART 3: WHEN THE BLESSING DOESN’T HAPPEN 11. Homes That Withhold the Blessing 12. Half-Blessed 13. If You Missed the Blessing 14. Reversing the Curse PART 4: LIVING THE BLESSING CHALLENGE 15.

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