By Alice Miller
An exam of early life trauma and its surreptitious, debilitating results by means of one of many world's prime psychoanalysts.
by no means ahead of has world-renowned psychoanalyst Alice Miller tested so persuasively the long-range outcomes of youth abuse at the physique. utilizing the stories of her sufferers besides the biographical tales of literary giants similar to Virginia Woolf, Franz Kafka, and Marcel Proust, Miller indicates how a kid's humiliation, impotence, and bottled rage will present itself as grownup illness―be it melanoma, stroke, or different debilitating illnesses. by no means one to draw back from controversy, Miller urges society as a complete to jettison its trust within the Fourth Commandment and never to increase forgiveness to oldsters whose tyrannical childrearing equipment have led to unsatisfied, and infrequently ruined, grownup lives. during this empowering paintings, writes Rutgers professor Philip Greven, "readers will how one can confront the overt and covert traumas in their personal childhoods with the enlightened assistance of Alice Miller."
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